认识自己

你是谁？我不知道要如何答这个问题...发现我们所认识的自己都不是真正的自己，只是朋友告诉我们的自己，可是我很多时候都是会把最好的一面表现在大家面前而把不好的一面盖起来...可是学佛却要认识真正的自己...有多少人能够接受自己是一个不完美的人，我也不是一个很完美的人，我也有我的弱点，我的习惯，我不好的一面，不好的想法...
通明师父说：“只要认识到自己，就必须要接受自己是一个这样的人，只有接受才会改变！”

所以一定要认识自己，接受，改变，然后放下....学佛就是要我们变成一个更好更快乐的人，就佛陀一样....佛法其实不难，因为它就是生活嘛！！可是我们毕竟是一个凡人，也会有陷入困难或难关的，我们有我们的执著，所以法侣是一个帮助我们度过难关，帮我们变成好的人...可以完全接受我们，真心诚意帮助我们的人....然后当我们成功改变自己的时候，就是我们去帮助别人的时候了！

一个朋友说过：“只有先把自己心中的那盏灯照亮，才能照亮别人心中的那盏灯！”

只有帮助自己的人，才能够帮助别人....可是不要小看别人给你的小小的灯，因为那都是给我们力量去面对与成长的最重要的....所以请打开我们的心房，让别人的灯光可以照亮我们的心，而我们也把最真诚的心来照亮别人的心房！！

这是我在刚刚结束的年度生活营所启发到的一些小小分享，愿这个分享能够延续大家心中的那盏灯，那盏可以照亮一切的灯！

Hoeh Beng Temple Trip

Today I went to Hoeh Beng Temple with UBF to visit Reverend Chuan Wen...the trip is very inspiring for me...the reverend share that learning Buddhism is not only practice by ourself but it is best to practice it in people...we will never learn of our strength and weakness if we did not interact with people...I found that it is very true...I learn a lot when I was interacting with groups...only by interaction that I was be able to learn that I still have a lot of problems and habits that should be change...for example I learn that I will be unhappy or sometime angry when others cannot achieve what I anticipated...I tend blame others for their imcopetance or weakness but I forget that the one that have problem is me...and me alone...only through interaction with people that I understand I am not so perfect as my heart will go up and down when interacting with outside world...its good that we have iniative to learn Buddhism by ourself...but it also important to go outside to meet people....it not only can it helps you to realise your strenght and weakness...but also present a chance for sharing of Dhamma to others...only through people that we will able to help others...to share and help whenever needed...also it give us opportunity to train our heart...just like Reverend said before:" Only through interaction with people that we will be able to practice and train our heart to be more and more like Buddha."

So enjoy interaction with people....share whatever you can...give a helping hand whenever the chances appear to you...train your heart and learn to change your habits....only through this that we can be closer to the Buddha....go down the path of a boddhisatta...you will never regret it....I know I won't regret whenever I can share Dhamma or my experience and give a helping hand to others....I know that I still lacks a lots compared to the Buddha...so lets us walk this road together kalyana mitra...let us learn and grow together!!! ^^

Why???

Why everyone has different thought n opinion?? Why they never listen to others?? Why they have to force their thoughts against other?? Why?? Why? Why?

Most importantly why the Dhamma is not hard to understand by others, but few are able to practice it?? Is it so hard?? Would that means that Dhamma had not gone into ur heart?? I noe most of us has great understanding of Dhamma but is it so hard to practice it in our daily life??

Wahaha....I summarize all my fustration n question in my mind into simple words....I think most people will not understand(not so good in writing)....haha..^^

PS: Sorry Raymond, another post that u won't understand again...hehe^^

一时的感动！

今天的静坐班有点不一样，分享了学长格成的一篇文章，写了他从中学到他遇到佛学会的一些经历....心中对这篇文章有一点的感触....它让我想起了以前第一次接触佛学会的感觉....该谢谢我的一个学长 Kim Wee 给了我一个机会去接触佛学会....当时一踏出房门决定没想到就将会改写我在Uniten的一生.....当时只是单纯的就去了佛学班...当时那里我没有朋友，可是个个像认识的，搞到我不敢做什么，那时Jeffrey就来和我聊天，让我不会在那里呆呆的^^ 接着看到传芳一进来就拜佛，那时只是看着他，不敢问他在做什么....那时就是那么的单纯，对每一件事都感到很新鲜，想知道这，向学习那，就是什么都想要知道.....那天佛学班就只记得一句话：“学佛就是要让我们的生活变得更快乐！” 我就已经认定这就是我要的，我要知道佛教是什么？什么才能快乐？那天就因为我的一个决定让我在佛学会里一直呆下去的动力....^^

今天晚上让我再想起了我当初为什么要学佛....很多时候我们都会因为做多了，懂多了，就会忘记了当初的一颗单纯的心....所以才会没有了动力，没有了感动.....可能最重要的是还是一颗心，心麻木了就会没有了动力，也很难感动了，所以最重要的记得我们当初学佛的心呀！！想想自己也在这个道路上走了蛮长一段时间，从一直不断学习到付出做理事到现在退休变普通会员（hehe^^) 心里的成长也一直改变，从想知道更多到学习付出到现在想要帮助别人...其实现在才知道想帮助别人是很有挑战性的，分享就变成很重要了，可是虽然能够随时随机分享及布施，但是还是不能在大众面前分享....害怕吧....怕误导大众也怕自己没有这个能力....看来我还需多多努力呢！！

Haiz.....

不知怎么越看就越不高兴.....可能以为心中是放下了....但其实还是很在意的.....知道自己不应有这么样的想法，也知道该把它放下.....可是就是不能....haiz....人的心就是那么的难以控制，以为自己已能够放下了，但事实证明我还差得很远呢！！嘴里说没关系，但心里却不是这样想，心中还是很放不下呀！

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Just now I just read about a meaningful story....quoted from yee mun blog....ah sum i know u wont angry bout sharing this story in my blog de....hehe^^

Once upon a time there was this girl who had four boyfriends.


She loved the 4th boyfriend the most and adorned him with rich robes and treated him to the finest ofdelicacies. She gave him nothing but the very best.


She also loved the 3rd boyfriend very much and was always showing him off to neighboring kingdoms. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another.


She also loved her 2nd boyfriend. He was her confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, and he would help her get through the difficult times.


The girls 1st boyfriend was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining her wealth and kingdom. However, she did not love the first boyfriend. Although he loved her deeply, she hardly took notice of him!


One day, the girl fell ill and she knew her time was short. She thought of her luxurious life and wondered, I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, I'll be all alone."


Thus, she asked the 4th boyfriend, "I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"


"No way!", replied the 4th boyfriend, and he walked away without another word.


His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart.


The sad girl then asked the 3rd boyfriend, "I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"


"No!", replied the 3rd boyfriend. "Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to marry someone else!"


Her heart sank and turned cold.


She then asked the 2nd boyfriend, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?"


"I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!", replied the 2nd boyfriend. "At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave."


His answer struck her like a bolt of lightning, and the girl was devastated..


Then a voice called out: "I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go.."


The girl looked up, and there was her first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition and neglect.


Greatly grieved, the girl said, "I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!"


In truth, you have 4 boyfriend's in your lives:

Your 4th boyfriend is your body. No matter how much time and effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die.


Your 3rd boyfriend is your possessions, status and wealth. When you die, it will all go to others.


Your 2nd boyfriend is your family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave.


And your 1st boyfriend is your Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.


However, your Soul is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you to the throne of God and continue with you throughout Eternity.

Most of us is just like in the story...we all care for ourselves the most...we wanted to look pretty in front of people, close our weakness and show our nice and cool self up...just like with the 4th boyfriend....of course then our most valuable stuff...money, laptop, hand phone...etc....like the third boyfriend....then the most that we interacted is often our family and friends....the one closest to us.... they bring joy and sorrow to us in our everyday life....they let us feel warm but sometime feel cold.....that is the excitement of life....it can be unpredictable and it usually wont go our way....but always we neglected our soul.....our heart and mind....we often find sensual pleasure to filled our heart and mind but often forget to purify our mind....juz like yee mun say:"only the soul follow us when we die, so what are u doing now??? step up and pray now!!"

well in buddhism we should know that nothing can follow us to death except for what we done in the past that determine how we are going to be in the future.....so juz like my friend yee mun say step up and do it NOW!!! no more next time as we all don know if we can live through today....so just help anyone or anything when u have the chance....don hesistate....do it NOW before it is too late....don worry coz we are learning....so let us learn together and spread the joy and happiness of the dhamma around......do our best and believe that u will be rewarded....^^

等

很久没有等人的感觉了.....等的时候可以让自己静下来，可以让心变平静....今天刚好有这个机会....平时生活都是忙忙碌碌的过.....心没有几何可以停下来的，天天都有东西在想，在忙，assignment 还没交，lab report还没打，test还没读，还要开会，还要做project....就连睡觉时都没有停止过......从早到晚都很难有一刻宁静.....甚至在等人的时候都会争取时间，读书呀，做功课呀......大多数的人就这样过他们的一生.....忙碌的一生.....心几乎都没有停止过....很多东西挂碍，不能放下....很难专注于现在所要做的事.....所以让心有一刻宁静是很重要的，至少有一小段时间可以放松，可以停下来观察自己和周围，往往会发现一些以前所忽略或很少注意到的东西....加油吧！！让心能有机会宁静.....慢慢看到我所忽略过的一切.......努力^^
这是今天在等人的时候的一个小小启示，愿与大家分享，一起加油努力吧！！hehe^^